“There is nothing you need to do, be, get, have, change, practice, or learn in order to be happy loving and whole." - Michael Neill, Transformative Coach and Author
Emotional eating is a habit...
... and what are habits? Habits are thoughts....
We all have habits, don't we? I've had many. I used to use sweets as my emotional crutch. Jelly sweets to be precise and I could polish off a large bag before anyone else had opened theirs. They didn't even touch the sides, I didn't taste them, I would just plough my way through until they'd gone, and not just one bag. When did I do it? When I was feeling stressed or unhappy. And for that short moment, I felt better.
Another of my habits used to be tidying... obsessively tidying - or rather moving things into piles and then straightening the piles. Straightening anything that wasn't straight and in line. Habits are those things that we feel driven to do, that we feel somewhat or completely out of control of, but that we know are not necessarily good or healthy for us, but we continue to do anyway.
It is easy to lose weight but hard part is to keep it off! I am 58 years old and during the last 20 years have struggled with my diet and my dress sizes yoyo. I found it just easier to buy bigger clothes and easy to cook ready meals or take-aways - for a while that was ok. My cholesterol sky-rocketed, my tummy bloated and since the menopause kicked in everything became chaotic: the mood swings, night sweats, metabolic rate crashed and then my body decided to move south! I felt invisible and completely out of control of my emotions and my eating – food seemed to control me. I would eat the fridge when under any kind of stress.
I knew I was comfort eating and let my thoughts dictate my eating and decided what I need was to change my lifestyle and my thinking. I wanted to learn more about nutrition too. I didn’t really know where to go for this support and advice. For a while I had a personal trainer and he advised me that being fit is 80% food and 20% fitness. He advised me to consider getting my eating under control and introduced me to Vee. Vee helps me understand how to control my diet – her expertise as a life change coach and nutritionist really works for me. It hasn’t been easy an easy journey and looking at your emotions and where they come from is at times uncomfortable, you need that right person - someone you can trust and feel safe with to share those issues – however big or small they are. Vee showed me how to change my thoughts or just accept them rather than turn to the fridge or chocolate!
There are the odd glitches but she has helped me to understand where my thoughts come from and to change those to more positive thoughts and outcomes. She is encouraging me to get to my target weight and I have lost some weight and can’t wait to get to my spin class now – my knees don’t touch my tummy anymore! I enjoy food and I am changing my habits too, I make more nutritious and healthy meals. I am learning to put myself first and be less of a people pleaser. I cope with life’s pitfalls more easily and I know for sure that if I didn’t have Vee (my guiding star) in my life I would be at least a stone heavier and my wardrobe would be full of more extra-large sized clothes. I have gained so much more than losing weight – my confidence and inner strength and most importantly I feel lighter in the mind, soul and body. I wish I knew her 20 years ago!
Jayne Featherstone, Laleham
Nutritionist /Nutritional Therapist / Health Coach covering Walton-on-Thames, Weybridge, Staines, East & West Molesey, Shepperton, Chertsey, Cobham and surrounding areas.
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